Ode to the Nice Guys...

I am a girl who adores nice guys.

Many young girls like the thrills of a guy who live on the edge, so nice guys are left behind to pick up the pieces.

I was and still am a nice guy and have had alot of girlfriends...None were raving beauties, but I didn't care.

I met many of the thrill guys and raving beauties later in life, what a dissapointment.

I'm completely attracted to nice guys. It really doesn't matter to me what they look like. I think I'm a nice a girl, but a guess most nice guys like shitty girls just as most nice girls like shitty guys.

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this just goes to show nice guys do finish last and that their is no point in being that nice guy. Well unless you don't want to get laid so stop being nice start being a d!ck and you d!ck will thank you later!

I would consider myself a nice guy. Though that is open to opinion. But don't start to think that nice guys finish last. You can be a nice guy and get laid too. Sex doesn't make you anyless of a nice guy.

The only thing that concerns me is that the nice guys tend to be doormats for women and, of course, that ain't right. Girls like dirtbags; they like a guy who's rebellious and lives life on the edge, as Yuniversal said prior. It's a proven fact.

I think nice guys need to add a little attitude to their repertoire. They can still be nice but add a touch of confidence/pseudo-arrogance/mini-cockiness and it helps..... not only the sex appeal but also the guy's self-esteem.

my shoulder is soaked but my dick is dry. who should be crying here?

Its funny, If a chick is a bitch she doesnt get a boyfriend. Now dont get that confused with getting fucked. If shes hot shes gonna get fucked but if shes a bitch she wont keep a boy friend.

And on the opposite end, if a guy is a dick he gets a girl....Wtf?

Its this type of non sequitur mentality that causes war, and corruption in the world.

I think the day the individual makes sense, the world will then follow.

Weepy, you're way out in left field. And, the word you're TRYING to use is "non sequitur." Get an education before poppin' shit off like that.

You're the individual that doesn't make sense, therefore the world will never follow you. Have a marvelous day!

I'm sorry ladies but none of you know what you want. I find that my chances of being with a girl are actually increased when I don't shower her with compliments, when I totally make fun of her and when I'm a jerk in general.

There's always a difference between what a woman says she wants and what she ACTUALLY wants.

<manlyhidinghismistyeyes>This is... beautiful... at last recognition.</manlyhidinghismistyeyes>

well he would be a perfect boyfriend
just not for me =(
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I'm a nice guy in need of rehabilitation

Nice guys don't go out and kill that mastodon and drag it back to the kitchen.

A woman needs to know her guy is tough enough to survive and thrive in the jungle.

And she expects to see signs of assertion and yes, even domination in the guy. Even directed at herself, ESPECIALLY at herself if she does not get to see his actions in the real world.

A prick can look enough like a real alpha male to get laid.

A wise woman may see beyond the assertive facade, but during those naive child-bearing years, the pricks of the world have the most action.

Weeps, your original post started off in a good direction, albeit a little "all over the place." Then with the whole war thing, that just threw it out there but I understand where you're going and completely respect your opinion.

Treat woman like shit and they'll fall head over heals for you.
Spend every waking moment on them, and they'll use you and walk all over you like a doormat.
I'm trying to find a way to treat girls like shit, and be that nice guy. Kinda hard though.

Vindication for "nice" guys will come when all of the men with their balls still attached die off...

Of course women like nice guys, they are like their girl friends, except cooler because they aren't hung up on their looks and interested in being catty. "Nice" guys and gay guys are the favorite friends of girls for the same reason, because anyone likes having a personal cheerleader to make you feel better, listen to your problems and cater to your needs.

The problem is, that kind of behavior commands a woman's sexual attention about as effectively as Bush has run this country the past 8 years.

There is nothing wrong with being nice, considerate, caring and supportive, but it needs to be within the context of a relationship, and there needs to be a balance. One person can't be a servant to the other, whether it is guy to girl or girl to guy.

There is a difference between arrogance and confidence.

There is a difference between strength and bullying.

There is a difference between a sense of humor and being a clown.

And there is a difference between a nice guy and a doormat.

Fine lines all, but we know where they all are!

The balance between "nice guy" and "complete jerk" is usually struck by a strong sense of personal self actualization and awareness...in my opinion, at least.

Women, again in my opinion, tend to respect someone, both psychologically and physically, with the kind of quite confidence it takes to live their lives on their own terms.

Of course, this kind of insight often comes by way of hard-learned experience...and more than a few hours spent with your "friend" in the lingerie isle at the local Wal-Mart after the bars close.

Amen.

What I think far too many people fail to realize is that being nice is a conscious choice. Many of us easily have the God-given capabilities to get and do whatever we want, but the difference is we also have a built-in consideration for other people's feelings and the consequences of our actions towards them.

That isn't just about being nice, that is the difference between "right" and "wrong" behavior towards others in general. Any girl that is foolish enough to desire or tolerate inconsiderate/disrespectful behavior from a man based on the reverse psychology underlying it doesn't deserve the respect or consideration in the first place.

If you really respect the nice guys because what they stand for respects your well-being, then, out of respect for them and yourself, don't be so easy or date the jerks.

I personally can't stand liars and players whether they are male or female, so rather than pay lip service to those that do the "right" thing for everyone over what is best for them, why not try doing the "right" thing yourself?

Sorry, I've met all types in my time, and, to be honest, our society is retarded and backwards in many ways which is the exact same reason large parts of it are self-destructing. If you want to make a difference, be a different type of person, don't just talk about it.

I found this submission to be a good start nonetheless.

i just broke up with a "nice guy," well, it was mutual. I guess i'm a "crazy girl."

too bad the game is so fun.

People only want what they can't have or what they think they can't have. It's pathetically sad but true to a large extent. It works both ways though.

It has been my experience that people will take your kindness for granted but then come back begging, pleading, and offering everything under the sun after you've genuinely had a realization and moved onward from trying to stabilize their emotional well-being. It's retarded, but that's only because people who behave that way are retarded, and that appears to be something that can't be taught or easily changed.

My advice is choose the people you associate with carefully. I've never been the one listening to girls talk to me about other jerk guys while they throw themselves at them, my ego would never remotely tolerate that, but I understand how shady some women are and that scenario is repulsive. If you're a nice guy that tolerates that, don't.

However, I have been the guy that girls always throw themselves at when going through rough times and for whatever host of other reasons. Unlike most "opportunist" men, I always avoid "going there" with them because it's just in bad character to be so emotionally weak in the first place.

Still, that often does leave you with the pissed off feeling of "Gee, I could have easily slept with you but didn't out of respect." when the girl you chose to counsel instead of fuck turns out to be a some other jerkoff's toy instead. Maybe modern American women are just too slutty in general these days?

People that take advantage of others are just wrong, so whichever side of the coin you happen to find yourself on, make a conscious and clear effort to respect the feelings of those who respect yours. Avoid the others or give them a taste of their own medicine just to be a smartass if you can.

In the grand scheme of things, one person's time should be considered to be just as valuable to that person as the next's, so try to be strong and independent and not lean on "nice" people because of your own weakness, mistakes, and insecurities.

Friends always help to make it through the low times, but being a burden to your friends just because they are "nice" enough to tolerate it isn't really being a friend.

Im so glad there are still a few gals out there that truly appreciate nice guys... and someday maybe they wont have to go through crappy guys to find out they like nice guys...