epected sense of gratitude

The families themselves should be grateful to have a(nother) child in their lives, not expecting graditude... True charity comes from the heart and soul, not from ones pride and arrogance.

Any adopted child should bring a feeling of warmth to any adopting family and not be regarded as some sort of trophy.

Give love. Be loved

Everyone should be grateful for others who help them.

Life isn't fair. Bad things happen to good and undeserving people, but those people should always be grateful to whomever helps them our of dire circumstance and have the consideration not to take out their other anger on the people that tried to save them from it.

Just one more reason I think people should be required to have licenses and meet certain requirements before they are allowed to bring innocent lives into the world.

Bringing an innocent and unwanted person into this world should be regarded as one of the worst crimes there is. Yet our society promotes dangerously unhealthy examples when it comes to sex that causes the babies.

And scenarios like this now take time out of our lives as a result. Hopefully one day the world may change to prevent lives from being brought into the world under such damaging circumstances.

This is a difficult subject and I guess it all depends on your definition of gratitude.

If you're in a dire situation and someone saves you then gratitude is a human response but to a child life is what it is. A child doesn't ask to be born. They don't have the mental experience to
understand their situation. In time they may "be grateful" but to expect gratitude from a child is ludicrous.

We would have to understand every single person's motive for adopting a child.....and
there are hundreds of motives.

Maybe we should be questioning "the Industry
of adoption." What are their motives?

Being a foster child myself, and living in a home comparable to the movie "Mommy Dearest", I was always reminded of the fact that I was "luck" to even be there, but always a burden, or reminded of where I "could have" ended up. As a child, you don't understand the burden of taking on a child not of your own. Children can since that bitterness and blame themselves, as if they did something wrong, when they are simply a victim of circumstance. That child will grow to have trust and emotional stability issues with the people closest to them, all because of the lack of compassion and mental maturity on the adopted parents part while caring for the child. If you want gratitude, go look for the real parents and ask them for it. They’re the ones who should be grateful. Once that child is old enough to recognize the great service that was done for them, at an older age, they will be forever grateful. Trust me, I know what I am talking about. I was finally adopted after a few years. And thank you so much to Shari and Steve Holland, Vallejo, Ca. If not for you, I would not be who I am and my life would not be the joyous gift that it is today. I am forever in your debt!