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Self-help books can get a pretty bad rap. Even Harriet Lerner, psychologist and author of the classic female life manual The Dance of Anger, bristles at "feverishly inspirational books that make large and silly promises." Which may be why she writes them so well.

The Dance of Anger analyzes the impact and importance of anger in intimate relationships, identifying common patterns while productively redirecting anger's path. Lerner states: "Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention." Where we often go awry is in its expression. And wow do we.

Many women (Lerner's book is specifically directed toward women, though is insightful for any reader) tend toward two distinct patterns: a) suppressing anger in the interest of propriety until it bubbles forth at a truly inappropriate time, ultimately diminishing our credibility despite our anger's rational origin, or b) expressing ourselves immediately, but in heated terms that can yield wildly unproductive labels like "crazy" and "bitch."

Good times, right? And that's just the angry iceberg tip. Lerner also delves into the balance of "I" versus "We" in relationships, and the dance between over-functioning and under-functioning partners. Generally, the more emotional responsibility one person carries, the less is required of their partner, and so goes the imbalance cycle.

So, excellent! Patterns exposed, true source of anger explored; Lerner's work is done, right? Well, if this were the brand of self-help book she derides, perhaps. But changing the pattern of our intimate relationships is more difficult and complicated than can generally be summarized, let alone accomplished, in ten easy steps.

What begins as an exploration of common patterns quickly expands to anticipate the effects of our changes on others. Resistance to change is a basic human truth, and when one person chooses to step boldly into personal growth, adjustment, and exploration, it generally follows that the surrounding people scream "Change Back!" as quickly and loudly as possible. By forcing change too soon, and creating a jarring, deeply uncomfortable dynamic, you may be first in line, begging yourself to return to pre-established patterns. Fortunately, Lerner is a step ahead of you, preaching patience and self-love as she guides us through our anger's evolution, identifying the possible responses among loved ones, and arming us with an informed perseverance.

So, is her process easy? Well, no. But sincere pattern-changing requires an exploration of perhaps decades-long emotional habits. Lerner isn't offering the psychological equivalent of a rapid weight loss diet so you can fit into that great new dress next week. She's teaching skills and awareness for lasting change. I'll dance to that.

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The Unending Orgasm

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Dating Secrets By Sign: Is Your Partner Telling You The Truth?

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7 months ago

Female orgasm - The Welcomed Consensus

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Fitting never-ending orgasms into your schedule: who has time for tantric sex?

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Clever Women More Likely To Have Trouble Climaxing

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Love and Vote

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10 months ago

What it Means When A Spouse Says It's Ok to Sleep Around

Many of the men that I interviewed for my book, "Having an Affair?" (and one, whom I was involved with personally) shockingly told me that their wives did in fact know that they were having an affair, and, or, sex with other women in general.

I was truly shocked at first, thinking "these wives deserve their men to cheat on them with attitudes like that." I went on to investigate it further in chapter three of my book - "How and Why Married Men Stray," and why their wives stay!!

One guy told me he had confronted his wife of 10 years to tell her he was not getting enough sex. They had talked about it many times apparently. He suggested they go to marriage counseling but she'd said - "to save time, money, AND our marriage, I give you permission to go get your sex with other women, as long as you are discreet about it!" He was dumbfounded and said he felt totally rejected as a man. He didn't know what he was supposed to do, or how he should feel.

NOTE: Once he got over the hurt and anger, he did of course go straight out and have an affair!

Obviously this wife had largely opted out of their relationship, neither interested in romance or passion with him, nor wanting to find out where it had gone and how to get it back. Interestingly enough though, she didn?t want to lose the life, nor partnership, she had with him. So she gave him her blessing to seek sex elsewhere, as long as she wasn't involved.

For wives who do this - it might seem like a viable solution - but it is a huge slap in the face for any man who wants his marriage to succeed! Can you imagine how you'd feel? I will be examining this topic more deeply, this week. I wonder how many fake marriages exist like this, especially here in Hollywood?

In this episode, I welcome stories from mistresses who have been involved, or is involved with a guy who has been given 'an unlimited access pass to other women' by the wife that he married.

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Full Epsidode: http://www.karmaair.com/ShowBlog.aspx?episodeid=580 Many of the men that I interviewed for my book, "Having an Affair?" (and one, whom I was involved with personally)... more